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Top 3 Passive-Aggressive Phrases We All Use

I have always considered myself a direct communicator, but now, I’m having doubts. I found this list of commonly used passive-aggressive phrases on huffpost.com. I am totally guilty of using…

Closeup portrait, angry young sitting woman pissed off by drivers in front of her and gesturing with hands. Road rage traffic jam concept. Woman is driving her car very aggressive and gives gesture with her fist. Part of a story about passive-aggressive phrases many people use.

We all have our moments. Even if you’re not a passive-aggressive person, sometimes a passive-aggressive phrase can pop out.
Photographer: Dimitar Mitev

Photographer: Dimitar Mitev


I have always considered myself a direct communicator, but now, I'm having doubts. I found this list of commonly used passive-aggressive phrases on huffpost.com. I am totally guilty of using some of these. Check out the article for a more in depth look at all six phrases and to find out WHY we speak like this.

My Top 3 Passive-Aggressive Phrases

1.  "Good for you."  I always thought it was sarcasm if I used this phrase. I was saying, "Good for you," but I really meant, "Go #@$k yourself." On closer inspection, sarcasm may be a form of passive-aggressive behavior. What a bummer.

2.  "It's fine."  Pretty much anytime I've said, "It's fine," it was NOT fine. If I say, "It's fine," I'm really saying, "I know I'm getting screwed over here, but I'm going to let it happen because I'm too exhausted to fight about this crap."

3.  "Whatever."  SO.GUILTY. Much like, "It's fine," "Whatever" is what I say when I don't feel like fighting. I'm throwing in the proverbial towel because it's more effort than I care to put into this situation.

Recognizing Is the First Step

It is, buuuuuuuutt I may still rock these phrases from time to time. I don't think "passive-aggressive" shows up on most people's lists of outstanding personality traits, but it definitely does on some. For some people, passive-aggressive behavior is a real issue.

The Mayo Clinic gives insight on identifying passive-aggressive behavior. While passive-aggressive phrases and behaviors aren't categorized as a mental illness, it can still be a condition that holds people back from leading happy, less stressful lives.

Talkspace.com has a great article on identifying and stopping passive-aggressive behaviors.

I suppose I can take this information and use it to mature and grow as a human being. It's fine. Whatever... I kid, I kid. Speaking of kidding... according to YouTube, the video below is chuck full of passive-aggressive revenge stories. I don't know if the stories are all true, but I enjoyed them nonetheless.

Donielle Flynn has two kids, two cats, two dogs, and a love of all things rock. She’s been in radio decades and held down top-rated day parts at Detroit, Philadelphia, and Washington DC radio stations throughout her tenure. She enjoys writing about rock news, the Detroit community, and she has a series called “The Story Behind” where she researches the history of classic rock songs.