Facebook Group – Am I the Sarcastic A$$hole?
I’m back and forth on participating in Facebook groups. It’s easy to drop down a rabbit hole. Sometimes there are internal conflicts and you have no idea where it started. sometimes the groups are just insane, in my opinion. Maybe they think I am the sarcastic a$$hole.
Exhibit A: Pretend We’re Family Facebook Group
I posted on Facebook asking if anyone had been invited to (what they considered) strange Facebook Groups. I used as an example one that had been suggested to be by the FB AI bots… something about “A Group Where We Pretend to Be a Family.”
There were close to 100,000 people in the “Pretend Family” Facebook group. I read over posts. At first I thought it was very sweet that people were posting things that they were pleased about and the group would respond with messages of support. But soon I was starting to get creeped out. I know… I am most likely the a$$hole, but wait.
The posts all began with stuff like “Hey fam! I just got a promotion!” and other people would respond with things like, “Hey cuz! That’s awesome! I can’t wait to see you for the holidays.” LISTEN. I know I am the sarcastic a$$hole, but this made me sad.
Why Did the Facebook Group Make Me Sad?
I felt like since it was all obviously fake, the words and sentiment also rang hollow. You’d rather go tell a group of strangers about your promotion than real people in your life? I know sometimes our actual family sucks. I’ve had the good fortune to not have family members screwing me over to the point that I have to cut ties, but I know people that have had to do exactly that.
I Would Like To Rethink My Words and Opinions
Family doesn’t have to be blood. In my opinion, those who support you, help you, and are there when you need them… THAT is family. I wrote this post, but I kept looking for the Facebook group “A Group Where We Pretend to Be a Family.” I finally found them. I don’t know what I read before that creeped me out, but I’m glad I found them again and read over their posts. I really am the a$$hole.
The posts I most recently read from the group were people looking for support, kind words, and/or advice on life’s challenges. Many have had rough times and loss. Many express feelings of being alone and wanting support from the fam. I rejoined the group and I’m now helping with support of these people. Here’s a link to the Facebook group, “A Group Where We Pretend to Be a Family.” …in case you would like to join me.
Ironically, the Facebook Group I’m currently most active in is called “Cats are A$$holes.” No wonder I love cats… they’re a lot like me. Live and learn, my friend. I don’t always get it right the first time… but I do keep trying to learn and understand.
I started out looking for “strange” Facebook groups because I figured there had to be some funny ones out there… and I’m sure there are, but part of the lesson that I learned here lies in the judgement of others. I do not like the way I feel when I judge. I feel good when I make people smile. 🙂
